Here is the next installment of my Five Minute Free Writes Challenge.
I grew up in a family of seven children and, at times, being the middle child, I often felt invisible and unseen. Sometimes conversations were so busy and loud I needed to raise my voice and butt in, in order to be heard. This does not create good listening habits.
I have to work really hard at not butting in or finishing someones sentences. I don’t like it at all when others do it to me so I am making a concerted effort to stop, listen and not interrupt. I have to be honest…..it’s really hard. I want my voice heard but I also want to respect and hear what the other person has to say.
Interrupting shows I do not respect your voice.
Interrupting shows I think my voice is more important.
I don’t want to do either of these things. I want to value and respect the words and opinions of others. I don’t want to assume I know how they intend to end their sentences. So I have been trying to make a better effort at listening, waiting to respond and put more value in what others have to say.
Yet, I also want my voice heard too. To be treated with the same respect I am giving the person I am listening to. I know if more people really listened to others, specially others with differing opinions, we might have more peace in our country. People no longer listen to understand rather they are forming their answers without ever really listening to the words being spoken. Misunderstandings happen when we don’t listen or respect their voice. Words get thrown about, feelings get hurt, anger wells and all because they did not take time to listen.
I can have my voice and listen too. I can respect another person even if our opinions vary. It’s not my way or no way-the sad truth about many people today. They are so focused on being right they fail to listen and realize they just might not be right. No longer do people agree to disagree. They want their voice heard and only their voice. We can all have a voice, our voice and still live in peace with each other.
May the God of steadfastness and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Romans 15:5 (ESV)
Finally, all of you, have unity of spirit, sympathy, love of the brethren, a tender heart and a humble mind. 1 Peter 3:8
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